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\"Cassie<\/a>

Cassie Shaw, MD, is a 2017-18 Chief Resident in Internal Medicine at Saint Louis University Hospital in Saint Louis, MO<\/p><\/div>\n

We all give up something, usually many somethings, to become doctors. It all starts with medical school where we spend hours listening to lectures, studying books, reviewing slides and reading notes. It continues into residency where we have little control over our schedules, working weekends and holidays; cherishing each of our 4 days off per month. We miss birthdays, weddings, family gatherings, and reunions. Instead of spending holidays with our own families, we spend them with our patients and their\u00a0families. After completing my first 2 weeks as an attending, I quickly realized that the 24 hour per day work while on service is unforgiving. I would wake drenched with sweat after a panicked nightmare about a missed diagnosis. I would check charts right before bed and first thing upon awakening.<\/p>\n

\"Cardinals<\/a>

Thankful for generous attendings who donate their Cardinals season tickets to poor, tired residents. This outing was a definite plus in the sanity column.<\/p><\/div>\n

However, as I write this, I hear the words of my Program Director in my ears: \u201cno one wants to listen to a physician whine.\u201d He\u2019s right. Being a doctor is a sought after, respected, and well-compensated position. I wanted this. In fact, I made deals with the universe for years to get where I am today: \u201cI will study every single night if you just let me into medical school.\u201d<\/em> No matter the sacrifices required, I still want this, and I cannot imagine doing anything but exactly this. It\u2019s not just that no one wants to listen to a doctor whine \u2014\u00a0we aren’t alone in this sacrifice. Many of our colleagues in other health professions and non-health professions sacrifice as well. Right or wrong, in this country, we often put our profession first and allow family, fun, and free time to fall in line thereafter.<\/p>\n

So how do we deal with the losses of days, hours, and important events with our loved ones? How do we stay sane and have lives outside of the workplace? As kids say these days, how do we fight the FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)?<\/p>\n

\"Margaret<\/a>

Bonus to my book club was having lunch with Margaret Atwood<\/p><\/div>\n

Until this year, I thought that I had created a good work-life balance. For instance, while I was in residency, I averaged one concert per month. It didn\u2019t matter if I was post call, pre call, or had to be at the hospital at 5\u00a0AM the next day, if there was an artist in town that I wanted to see, I was at that concert. I sacrificed sleep for sanity. I thought I was doing it right: living a perfect balance of both work and life. However, I still let a lot of other things that made me happy fall to the wayside. Namely, I rarely read for pleasure; I picked up a book only long enough to read a few sentences before falling asleep. I changed that during my chief year. I got a library card, and I started reading again. I also joined a book club where I could surround myself with individuals who also wanted to nerd out over literature. This was probably the first time in years where I\u00a0came to\u00a0a table and discussed something other than labs and images and medications and barriers to discharge. It was invigorating.<\/p>\n

Another strategy for maintaining a positive work-life balance is addition by subtraction. I did this more by accident and technological ignorance than by conscious choice. My hospital switched their email program from Gmail to Outlook this year, and when I put the new application on my phone, I didn\u2019t know how to turn on the notifications, so I just didn\u2019t. Since then, I only check my email once per day and rarely on the weekends. Checking my email on my own terms has been life changing. Although I’m not exactly \u201cunplugged,\u201d I feel unplugged. My attention is focused on the present. My pocket is not constantly pinging, and I don\u2019t feel the pressure to always be available. This isn\u2019t a new strategy, I know, but I always felt like I was somehow required to be immediately responsive as a physician, even when I wasn\u2019t on call. I felt as if I was going to miss an opportunity or let someone down. In reality, the only thing I was missing was my own life.<\/p>\n

In the last few months, as I\u2019ve made these seemingly minor changes, I\u2019ve noticed that I\u2019ve felt more whole. I have realized that I’m not defined by my profession. I\u2019ve felt more like me. I\u2019ve also noticed that my interactions with others have been more meaningful and far less stressful. I\u2019m able to apply myself to tasks in a more efficient way. This isn\u2019t just a feeling I alone have; researchers at San Francisco State University looked into their own employees and found that those with creative outlets and hobbies outside of the workplace perform better and interact more positively with their colleagues (J Occup Organ Psychol 2014; 87:579<\/a>).<\/p>\n

\"Cassie's<\/a>

My sweet, patient and thankfully very well house trained Labradoodle, Izzy.<\/p><\/div>\n

It’s no secret; we are all busy. We all want for more hours in the day and to use those hours to be supportive and present for our patients, our residents, our students, our family, our loved ones, and our Labradoodles. Okay, maybe that last one is just me. The reality is that we can\u2019t have more hours. We have 24 of them: no more, no less. How we choose to spend our hours makes all the difference. I am not advocating for you to spend less time devoted to providing the best care to your patients, and I know that means you will be put in a difficult position where you have to, again, give up something. I am advising that that “something” not be yourself. Cherish those things that make you you. Keep going to concerts, keep reading, keep writing, keep running, keep dancing, keep watching your kids\u2019 cross country practices, keep playing chess. The person who was accepted into medical school and subsequently into residency was the entire you, the whole you, and that is the you who is the best at your job.<\/p>\n

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\"NEJM<\/a><\/p>\n

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