{"id":2910,"date":"2020-07-22T17:06:07","date_gmt":"2020-07-22T21:06:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.nejm.org\/general-medicine\/?p=2910"},"modified":"2020-07-22T17:06:07","modified_gmt":"2020-07-22T21:06:07","slug":"patient-death-and-physician-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.nejm.org\/general-medicine\/index.php\/2020\/07\/patient-death-and-physician-grief\/","title":{"rendered":"Patient Death and Physician Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Dr. Bhardwaj is a Chief Resident at UMMS \u2013 Baystate Medical Center in Springfield, MA<\/p><\/div>\n

A few months ago, one of my colleagues spoke about \u2018Patient Death and Physician Grief\u2019 at a morning conference \u2014 somewhat unusual, considering our conferences largely revolve around medical topics. I was stunned by how the next hour unfolded that morning.<\/em><\/p>\n

The session started off like a traditional morning report with an opening line of the case. Except, we did not dive into a differential diagnosis or dwell on clinical reasoning. The resident spoke about a teenager who had presented after an out-of-hospital cardiac arrest. He had died, despite the best efforts of a solid team. It had deeply affected the resident, as he missed the opportunity to fully process it on a busy night.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

The first activity for the session involved\u00a0<\/em>desk partners <\/em>sharing stories of patient deaths that affected them. Every single resident shared a story. Even normally quiet residents were suddenly talking.<\/em><\/p>\n

I will embarrassingly admit that I cried a little, recalling one cold winter Thanksgiving day when my patient \u2014 a young woman with a toddler, had died of a brain bleed that was too deep for intervention. I took care of her for less than 24 hours, with no opportunity to connect with her as she was comatose on arrival to the hospital. Yet, that one incident affected me so deeply that I\u00a0<\/em>vividly\u00a0<\/em>remember every detail from that day, 2 years later. I tried to reason out why it affected me \u2014 was it because she was nearly the same age as me? Was the sorrow too difficult to bear during the holiday season? Was it the haunting image of her baby\u2019s hushed sobs echoing along the walls of the empty hallways of the medical ICU? Or was it simply hormonal?<\/em><\/p>\n

I looked around and saw a lot of tears as residents shared their experiences with the larger group. In that 1 hour, everyone allowed themselves to be vulnerable while recounting difficult experiences of taking care of patients who had died and how they coped with patient death. Even though we have mental health support and spiritual services in place at our institution, no one had paused to seek help to cope.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cNever get close to your patients\u201d<\/h4>\n

We repeatedly read these lines in books and watch it on television medical dramas! The hidden curriculum of this stoic profession teaches us to distance ourselves and create protective boundaries. Feeling and displaying too much emotion is regarded as unprofessional and a sign of weakness. As Dr. Elaine Kasket from London Metropolitan University eloquently stated, \u201cIt feeds into this popular image of the physician as some kind of superhuman ultimate rescuer of human life; unable to do his or her job if they give in to or even acknowledge their emotions.\u201d<\/p>\n

This notion was perhaps also born out of the necessity to shield us from the constant emotional brunt associated with poor patient outcomes like death. However, are we really shielding ourselves from the emotional toll if we maintain our distance?<\/p>\n

As trainees, we are thrown into a strange world in which death is often an unwanted visitor. Although it is a frequent visitor, each experience is still jarring. While feelings of grief are normal when we lose patients in our care, they can simultaneously be confusing and even uncomfortable. Clearly medical school has not prepared us for this possibility. However, it is imperative for us to \u2018heal\u2019 promptly to go back to doing what we purpose our lives around \u2013 saving patients!<\/p>\n

Why do we need to validate feelings of grief?<\/h4>\n

In a nutshell, unprocessed or disenfranchised grief is traumatizing. Feeling like we aren\u2019t living up to society\u2019s unwritten rules about grief can lead to isolation, shame, and guilt. Our profession punishes doctors for grieving and restricts the medical licenses of those seeking mental health care. So rather than process grief, many physicians turn to alcohol, drugs, or firearms. This, in turn, diminishes personal well-being, resulting in moral distress and soaring physician suicide rates.<\/p>\n

At the helm of a raging pandemic, this is an even more pervasive issue \u2014 healthcare professionals across the globe have recounted countless horror stories of patient deaths.\u00a0 This will no doubt have dire consequences in the years to come on the mental health of our community.<\/p>\n

We have to do better<\/h4>\n

Adding a suicide help line and starting wellness committees are far from a systemic cure. It is a start, but we need more concrete steps to support physician trainees through this process.<\/p>\n

1. A weekly debrief for all teams<\/h5>\n
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Rock Painting from our Monthly Self-Reflection Session<\/p><\/div>\n

Every program should have a consistent plan in place for a weekly debrief for all teams. This is especially important in the intensive care units. Feelings of grief need to be discussed freely and openly. Attending physicians ideally should take the lead to initiate these debrief sessions, which could help normalize this process.<\/p>\n

2. Self-Reflection<\/h5>\n

My program designed a self-reflection curriculum that allows trainees to indulge in the practice of deliberate self reflection. Although this might not suit everyone, it helped several trainees tune in to their inner self. Various activities like journal writing, artwork, and group debriefs have allowed us to slowly but willfully identify our deepest fears and our proudest accomplishments. It has also been strangely gratifying to learn that we can come from different countries, backgrounds, and cultures and yet face the same struggles about patient death.<\/p>\n

3. Mandatory Therapy Sessions<\/h5>\n

Having the option of professional mental health services is simply not adequate. Physicians are terrible about voluntarily seeking help. Every residency program should have mandatory in-house and free therapy sessions for their trainees at least 2 times a year. We need to normalize this process to avoid instilling feelings of guilt and inadequacy among physicians. ACGME, I hope you are listening.<\/p>\n

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A picture is worth a thousand words: A picture (that went viral on Reddit a few years ago) of a young ER doctor overwhelmed by grief after losing a 19-year-old patient<\/p><\/div>\n

As the hour long session on ‘Patient Death and Physician Grief’ ended, despite the melancholy, all residents left the room feeling better than when they entered. As one of them put it, sharing stories with “someone else who gets it” was therapeutic. <\/em><\/p>\n

None of us will forget the first patient who died under our watch, because knowingly or unknowingly, they are a part of the physicians we are today. For too long, we have been encouraged to stifle our feelings and to toughen up. Instead, let’s acknowledge our sense of loss and learn from it. After all, it is the human thing to do.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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*Some patient encounter details have been modified<\/h6>\n

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